Whether you have one kid or five, it is important for you and your spouse to spend time together alone. Even if it is just once in a while. To be able to communicate sans a screaming child and parenting roles intervening your conversation; it can do wonders for your relationship!
Taking time away from your busy schedules can be quite difficult. I know. Among owning an older house that requires a lot of attention, yard work, a kitten, a dog, a toddler and creative jobs that require both of us to think of ideas 24/7, life never slows down. This is why you have to make time. Jot down a tentative date or two in the beginning of the month and stick to it. No cancelling unless there is an absolute emergency.
So now that we discussed carving out the time for date nights, let’s get to the fun part! Remember, date nights don’t have to be expensive. Sometimes just the simplest of things can be better than going to a fancy restaurant then catching the newest flick. That’s just not my style anyway.
- Bring out the old CD’s and listen to your favorite songs and artists from high school. Have a few drinks and throw your own dance party in the living room.
- Sketch out a blueprint of your ultimate dream house. This might not work for every couple, but think it could be a lot of fun. If you’re not into drawing, make a list of your dream house must-haves. Want a big backyard? Jacuzzi? Laundry chute?
- Take fun pictures together such as the one shown above.
- Along the same lines; travel around your city (assuming it is still light out and nice weather), and take unique photos with the two of you together or of each other.
- Discover a new park or hiking trail. My husband and I did this last Friday night. So we cheated (our son was with us) , but we tried out a new jogging path at Fernbank Park. It was fun; we exercised and felt good about ourselves, and enjoyed the outdoors.
- Plan a vacation for an anniversary or other special occasion, including how long it will take you to save for it, budget, etc.
- Create a map of places you have been together or of places you wish to visit. This could be a local map or even a map of the world. You and your spouse can make that decision.
- Teach each other something new. I could teach my husband how to make jewelry and he could teach me how to whip up home decor designs in Illustrator. Just kidding, this idea really wouldn’t work for us but it may work for you.
- Bake using a recipe you found together. If you make too much, deliver some sweets to your neighbors.
- Make a big bowl of popcorn and enjoy some good laughs by hooking up the VCR and watching some home videos.
- Go to a festival. They are almost every weekend this time of year.
- Attend a local concert or find live music at a restaurant close to home. If you each order just an after-dinner drink, it will keep your date night relatively inexpensive.
- Create bucket lists over a glass of wine at home. You can do this individually or as a couple.
- Make a time capsule together, then put it away in a keepsake box to open years later. Get creative. Write out your hopes, dreams, and where you want to be in ten years. My husband and I (sort of) did this ten years ago and it’s so funny to read. Ironically, I am not far off of what I predicted!
- After the kids go to bed, bring out some classic board games and have a few drinks.
- Catch a movie at the dollar theater and go out for ice cream afterwards.
- Make a very specific list of things you love about each other. It’s good to not take these things for granted and it will make your spouse feel good about their selves and vice-versa.
- Have a late dinner and cook something exotic or try a recipe you wouldn’t normally try.
- Make a mix CD of songs that remind you of your time and life together. My favorite songs are from our time in high school and while in college in Savannah together. I miss those days.
- Go for a long drive, with no specific place in mind.
- Watch each other’s favorite movies from childhood.
- Bring a blanket and attend an outdoor concert. During the summer months, there are a lot of places here in Cincinnati that offer free music. (Live after Five is a great place to start)
Please, we’d love for you to join the conversation! What do you like to do for inexpensive date nights?